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I have been thinking of pouring down my thoughts for long and finally i got some time. A very difficult proposition if you have a one year old vying for your attention every moment of the day! I just wait so eagerly for those two hours during the day when she takes her nap and i can be on my own. Freedom personified. If you are not a parent, make sure you read on because it will help you to face the realities of raising a child. It is said that it needs a village to raise a child…I laughed it off when i was pregnant, thinking that i would manage it very well on my own, but now i can say that one village would be less!

I am saying this because of my own experiences. Things around the house will be thrown around, there will be no schedule for you per se, you will forget what you was before childbirth. Actually there is no time to think beyond your child. Be prepared for the toughest thankless job in your life if you are pregnant as no other job can equal its intensity. There will be times when you have to deal with loads of shit, well quite literally!

Changing diapers will seem difficult initially but soon you will turn a pro. You might lose all attachment to you material things as most of them will be at mercy of your child who will steal things to play right in front of your eyes and you can’t do anything because you will get one of the most beautiful smiles ever received in your entire life, and you would want to give in. She will cry for your attention and you will have to leave everything you are doing and be at her service. But mind you, you will feel the most important person in the whole world because she will make you feel that her existence is dependent on you and she loves you more than anyone else in the whole world.

I think that these first years of a child are the most important when the parents can spend time with them and help them learn the nitty gritties of life. Learning to talk, walk, share, express are all achievements for a child and who else but a mother can appreciate these milestones.

It doesn’t matter how naughty or troublesome your child is, you won’t feel a bit of difference in the love you have for her. I experienced this when she started throwing tantrums. At toddler stage, every parent has to learn to deal with temper tantrums. But then at that moment of time, you have to leave everything and sit with her and comfort her.

There will be times of panic and there will be blissful moments too. She might wake you up at five in the morning and coax you to read to her, would not go to sleep until you recite all the poems you remember but these memories will all be worth it. I think that when children grow up they drift away from their parents and start leading their own lives though the love might remain the same, but there are only sweet memories that remain behind. So cherish every moment with your child. This time won’t come back.

Tags: child, parent, pregnancy, upbringing