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It is really sad to think that India is grappling with the issue of female foeticide and screwed up sex ratio. It is more prevalent in some states than others where the male child is considered far more superior than the female child. Things in states like Punjab and Haryana are as bad as the caste system which is still vehemently prevalent in India.

Actually, there are two extremes as far as females are concerned. At one end is the one who is killed after the sex determination and at the other end of the spectrum is the alphawoman. Ya, the population of such women is on the rise and in fact in the metropolitan areas everyone wants to be one. So who is this alphawoman? She is the new age woman who knows what she wants and gets it too. She is mentally strong and financially not dependent on her husband or family. Uninhibited as she is, she finds her glory in things like getting the highest education possible, arranging her own wedding or honeymoon, and opting for a surrogate mother for her baby if she is too busy with work. And in this entire rigmarole,what the male partner feels about the whole thing  and what all steps he might take – it is better not to comment on it.

After much persuasion, my daughter Eva has started calling me mumma from today. Now her every sentence addressed to me has this beautiful word attached to it which I was longing to hear since she started speaking. So it is, ‘Mumma, where are you?’, ‘Mumma, what are you doing?’ or ‘Mumma, shall we go to toy room?’

Every day is full of surprises and I just couldn’t resist writing this blog in the middle of an exciting cricket match. I just don’t know where she catches words from because her vocabulary is increasing by leaps and bounds even though she still can’t read. Yesterday, I got a pack of story books for her and she started flipping through them. By just watching the pictures, she started telling me the story on her own. It was Goldilocks and the Three Bears and I will never forget that.

When it comes to food, there are people who just can’t resist it. If someone points out their irregular shape, they have hundreds of excuses to support their habit. A recent article about the same opened my eyes as I am myself battling with the bulge (well not that much!) and want to lose some weight and which is oh so difficult!

The excuses would range from diets don’t work for me, it’s in my hormones to simple ones like it’s in my genes or it’s pure water retention. But seriously, we should stop fooling ourself and chalk out a proper diet plan. If you can’t resist the dessert after the meals, just make sure you exercise a bit to make up for it.

Exercise need not mean heavy gymming but walking and swimming are a good substitute. Yoga is the best bet but if you are not up to it, just start with some walking or jogging.

FB or Facebook is a hugely popular social networking website with a layout and functionality that is quite user-friendly. To a normal user, it comes across as a platform for general friendly interactions and keeping in touch with distant relatives and friends. But as there are exceptions attached to almost everything, there is a group of people who are deadly against it and think of it as some evil on earth.

Quite cynically, these are the same people who maintain their account lying low and enjoy the interactions with their own state of mind. They would occasionally post pictures of their family and friends and throw in some things here and there just to make their presence felt. I wonder sometimes the kind and level of frustrations they are carrying within themselves. Would such breed ever delete their accounts and vanish from the scene where Angelina Jolie and Jonny Depp are somewhere being discussed in good humor. The answer is plain NO! (I find it quite interesting when people use the font size and font shape to emphasize importance, strength and so on. Actually, that’s the way it is, and I also comply to that many a times. Excuse the hormones please! )

I was inspired to write on this topic by a facebook friend who had asked a simple question – ‘How relationships work?’. Though this question is quite simple the answer is extremely convoluted and difficult to understand. Though I am not a pro on this topic, I would like to add that almost ten years of married life has taught me enough to write a paragraph about relationships in general.

It is a very old concept that relationships work if you care for each other! I hate the word ‘care’ so much so that might not want to hear it all my life. However, I do respect the connotations it carries in different contexts. For example, a mother will naturally care for her child without being told by anyone. A father is supposed to care or look after the financial needs of the family irrespective of the fact whether his wife is working or not.