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I was inspired to write on this topic by a facebook friend who had asked a simple question – ‘How relationships work?’. Though this question is quite simple the answer is extremely convoluted and difficult to understand. Though I am not a pro on this topic, I would like to add that almost ten years of married life has taught me enough to write a paragraph about relationships in general.

It is a very old concept that relationships work if you care for each other! I hate the word ‘care’ so much so that might not want to hear it all my life. However, I do respect the connotations it carries in different contexts. For example, a mother will naturally care for her child without being told by anyone. A father is supposed to care or look after the financial needs of the family irrespective of the fact whether his wife is working or not.

Relationships work when each member is aware of his or her role in the family. Things can go for a toss if one person dominates the show. Similarly, things can also get compromised if everyone in the family tries to sing their own tune. Relationships work when their is a balance of opinion amongst family members, their is minimal amount of respect for everyone, and a will to do no harm to anyone.

Respect is important because it is available in minimal amounts these days. It is even more difficult to listen to each other and carry out significant tasks. It has been noticed that if respect is absent, relationships crumble like a pack of cards.

Another factor is speaking well of near and dear ones. Though this is a very obscure topic but extremely important. When two people get married to each other, their families also form a bond. If the husband or wife speaks ill about the in-laws, the relationships are bound to crumble. Imagine someone speaking ill about your father or mother… Can you tolerate it?

In long term, transparency and level-headedness also contribute towards the growth of a relationship.

Then how much time you spend with each other also plays an important role in maintaining the life of the relationship. Just spending time is not enough. One should aim for spending time doing activities all family members enjoy.

Lies, playing games, and fooling around might work for some time but eventually you end up sitting on a bed of thorns. Forgiveness and love are the two factors which give your relationship a strong base and make it a source of envy for others!